Saturday, November 28, 2009

Philip

So, to continue a chapter that has had a few surprise turns. Apparently a girlfriend with three girls can be a bit to take on all at once, even though you've just spent the last nine months talking to her everyday and think that she and the girls are fantastic. So Philip decided that we weren't dating. This was especially hard because he wanted to be a part of the girls' lives that early and that's why I introduced them to him. For someone who's been single for so long like he has I can understand. I let it be for a few days and then curiosity got the best of me and I called him and asked if we could actually talk about it (and to ask him to ship my makeup, favorite razor and tweezers and the load of laundry that were left up there). So we did and we've decided to talk and see each other but to remove the girls from the situation for right now. He loves the girls to death but I chose this to protect them. I wouldn't have brought him in so quickly if he hadn't wanted to be. And to be fair to the girls his problem is just more with the whole picture than with them. But it seems safest for them so they don't get more attached than they already are.

So just an update on that. It seemed quite dire at the beginning of the week but has levelled out some. Thank goodness for maturity and reason! The ability to sit down and talk to someone about the problem is amazing. And definitely not what I'm used to.

4 comments:

Manda said...

I'm still glad that you called and talked about it. I don't know if I would have been that brave!

Jessica said...

i'm surprised i was! and i almost gave up halfway through.

thesteve said...

Wait I am still confused...so your not dating, but seeing eachother? (Melissa)

Jessica said...

i'm actually not quite sure what we're doing. esp since we never see each other because we lvie five hours apart. but i know i'm not supposed to go out with anyone else if they ask. ugh. high school dating was so much easier.